Friday, October 7, 2011

Resolving Conflict

Conflict is like a game of tug-of-war, someone wants to pull hard enough to get the flag (or disagreement) to their side of the mud puddle (one party wants the result to be in their favor).  But the outcome of conflict is not always so cut and dry.  If the individuals or groups in conflict really want the disagreement to end on a positive note,

The best outcome is they come to either an agreement that will suit everyone or they agree to disagree and move forward to ensure all parties are at least partially satisfied with the results.

I am going through a tough time in my life right now and am hoping that, when all has come to a close, everyone concerned will be at least partially comfortable with the end.  The strategies I used were:

1. Trying to hear the other person out and empathize with their feelings.

2. Send a message across that will not be hurtful, but get my point across to make it a smooth transition for everyone.

I like the idea of the 3R's because, as I stated in my discussion, it has a way of making the situation flow in a circular manner, allowing everyone to be heard and understood.  I'm not sure how the end of this will turn out, but I pray that all will end well.


  1. Kali,
    I like the ideas of the 3R's as well because the three R's can greatly improves one communication skills. In every conversation there needs to be respect. Participants also need to be responsive to each other. Discuss any problems that arise instead of talking but not listening.

  2. Kali, Communication is so important in resolving conflicts. But most importantly, there needs to be respect. The 3R's are great. Communication needs to be respectful, reciprocal, and responsive. But most importantly, relationships take time to develop and sometimes conflicts also need time to resolve. The best in trying to resolve your conflict.

  3. Kali,
    I like the strategies you chose to deal with your conflict. The 3 R's are very important to communication. If we all tried to follow the 3 R's more often in our conversations, we would never have disagreements or at least they won't escalate to an unhealthy level. Good post!

  4. Kali,

    Your post is very much to-the-point. The pictures really speak to me. I especially like the way you compare a game of tug-of-war to communication conflict. Thank you for sharing.